Real Imperfect MOM

All eyebrows will be raised if I say, I want a baby boy and not a baby girl. For the fact, I always wanted a baby girl, I have a beautiful 16 months old daughter, and in the process of raising her, I badly want to raise a boy. But what actually made me feel this?? Being in 2020, I thought there would be no difference between raising a boy or a girl. And I never did that for my daughter. But to my surprise, people around me were much bothered about how I raise my DAUGHTER and not my child. Something which I usually heard being said to my daughter was : Girls don't play like this, they don't keep jumping around all time, girls don't roam around without a nappy, girls don't shout, etc. These were just some of the talks which my 16 month daugher was told, who didn't even knew the difference between a boy and a girl. And I realised that nothing was said intentionally but something that is being heard and said since generations . But I am sure I don't want

Do all of us like everyone whom we meet in our life ? I am sure we don't, but most of us pretend to like whoever we meet. We are taught from childhood days that we should talk nicely to everyone, everyone around is a good human being, we should not be rude to anyone, etc. I respect all those childhood values but that doesn't mean I should like everyone.  I was never a pretend kind of a person during my teens nor am I now even after being 30. Since the time I was mature enough to understand, I was clear about the set of people whom I liked and the other ones who didn't matter much to me. The biggest problem here was, even if I wanted to pretend a fake smile the opposite person could easily know about it. So pretending was never a option for me. The process was never that easy. I was judged as arrogant, rude, having attitude, thinking about myself as I am someone great, not friendly, etc. These were the adjective which have been mentioned to me by those people who

Your were an unexpected happiness which was coming our way, but very less did I know that I would develop more fears than the happiness you were going to give me. We had just returned from our Ladhak trip. My periods were delayed but I didnt give much importance to it. I was 10 days up, and just to make sure I am NOT PREGNANT, I took the test and then came the most unexpected result " I Was Pregnant'. My husband and I both couldn't believe and took the test 3 times to make sure the results was correct . But with this unknow and unexpected Pregnancy, I was gripped with a lot of fears. The biggest fear that I woke up every morning to was , 'Will I be able to carry the child for 9 months, or I might have a miscarriage ?' Somehow the fear of miscarriage dint let me enjoy my initial phase of Pregnancy. To add to my fear, I started spotting at the start of 3rd month and it lasted for 20 days. But with God's grace I was still Pregnant. Knowing that by

A mother is child's first teacher. Whatever a baby learns, good or bad is always linked to mother's teaching. Being a mother, I know that feeling of onus to teach your child and making sure that he or she doesn't display any unaccepted behaviour before outsiders.But being a mother, I also know for the fact that no mother inculcates any bad habit to her baby, every mother wants the best for her baby. Then why is this gap between what we want to teach and what a baby learns? Is mother not a good teacher or baby not a good learner ? Let's find out. There are different aspects which affects the entire teaching and learning process, due to which a child is not able to graps what a mother teaches. ( All the examples given are tried and tested examples of my 16 month daughter ) 1. Method of teaching Every child has a unique method of learning. Some like to just listen and learn, while some like to touch and feel things, some like to just observe and some would like

Paryushan Parva is one of the most important festivals for the whole Jain community living across the globe. Thus, it is also known as Parva Dhiraj.  We can easily understand the word  Paryushan  by breaking it into two parts: Pary means all kinds and ushan means to burn; Overall it means to burn all the karmas and attain enlightenment and get freed from the cycle of life and death.Paryushan parva is an 8 day Jain festival. Amongst these, day 5th and day 8th hold a special celebration. Why is Paryushan celebrated? Paryushan is basically a spiritual festival which is celebrated to bring spiritual awareness and awakening. Paryushan stands for some of the most important practices like: Nonviolence (Ahimsa) Engaging in self-discipline (Sanyam) Partial or complete fasting Penance (Tapah) Study of Scriptures (Swadhyaya) Introspection (Pratikraman) Repentance (Prayaschitta) When is paryushan celebrated? Every year this festival of Paryushan starts on Shravan Vad 12th o

Though we are in 2020, there are so many families, infact even the going to be father or mother who desire to only have Baby Boy. I know it sounds unreal but it's a sad truth.  But what's are reason? Why does a family wants to have a boy but not a girl? Specifically talking about India, there are numerous unreasonable reasons behind this thinking. Family Heritage A boy will take forward the family heritage, but a girl will get married any follow someone else's heritage. Dowry When the boy gets married, the grooms family receives dowry I e many valuable gift and money, which needs to be given by the girls family i.e bride family. So it's beleived that a boy will get money and a daughter will take away all the money. Though dowry is illegal is India it's atill practiced but only the term is used is " gifts out of love and affection". Legacy A boy will take care of the family business and follow the family legacy and a girl is considered incompete