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Why should I pretend to like everyone around ?

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Do all of us like everyone whom we meet in our life ? I am sure we don't, but most of us pretend to like whoever we meet. We are taught from childhood days that we should talk nicely to everyone, everyone around is a good human being, we should not be rude to anyone, etc. I respect all those childhood values but that doesn't mean I should like everyone.  I was never a pretend kind of a person during my teens nor am I now even after being 30. Since the time I was mature enough to understand, I was clear about the set of people whom I liked and the other ones who didn't matter much to me. The biggest problem here was, even if I wanted to pretend a fake smile the opposite person could easily know about it. So pretending was never a option for me. The process was never that easy. I was judged as arrogant, rude, having attitude, thinking about myself as I am someone great, not friendly, etc. These were the adjective which have been mentioned to me by those people who...

Fears!!! Until I first saw YOU

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Your were an unexpected happiness which was coming our way, but very less did I know that I would develop more fears than the happiness you were going to give me. We had just returned from our Ladhak trip. My periods were delayed but I didnt give much importance to it. I was 10 days up, and just to make sure I am NOT PREGNANT, I took the test and then came the most unexpected result " I Was Pregnant'. My husband and I both couldn't believe and took the test 3 times to make sure the results was correct . But with this unknow and unexpected Pregnancy, I was gripped with a lot of fears. The biggest fear that I woke up every morning to was , 'Will I be able to carry the child for 9 months, or I might have a miscarriage ?' Somehow the fear of miscarriage dint let me enjoy my initial phase of Pregnancy. To add to my fear, I started spotting at the start of 3rd month and it lasted for 20 days. But with God's grace I was still Pregnant. Knowing that by ...

How to ensure your Kid learns what you Teach

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A mother is child's first teacher. Whatever a baby learns, good or bad is always linked to mother's teaching. Being a mother, I know that feeling of onus to teach your child and making sure that he or she doesn't display any unaccepted behaviour before outsiders.But being a mother, I also know for the fact that no mother inculcates any bad habit to her baby, every mother wants the best for her baby. Then why is this gap between what we want to teach and what a baby learns? Is mother not a good teacher or baby not a good learner ? Let's find out. There are different aspects which affects the entire teaching and learning process, due to which a child is not able to graps what a mother teaches. ( All the examples given are tried and tested examples of my 16 month daughter ) 1. Method of teaching Every child has a unique method of learning. Some like to just listen and learn, while some like to touch and feel things, some like to just observe and some would like...

Paryushan Parva : Why, When and How is it Celebrated

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Paryushan Parva is one of the most important festivals for the whole Jain community living across the globe. Thus, it is also known as Parva Dhiraj.  We can easily understand the word  Paryushan  by breaking it into two parts: Pary means all kinds and ushan means to burn; Overall it means to burn all the karmas and attain enlightenment and get freed from the cycle of life and death.Paryushan parva is an 8 day Jain festival. Amongst these, day 5th and day 8th hold a special celebration. Why is Paryushan celebrated? Paryushan is basically a spiritual festival which is celebrated to bring spiritual awareness and awakening. Paryushan stands for some of the most important practices like: Nonviolence (Ahimsa) Engaging in self-discipline (Sanyam) Partial or complete fasting Penance (Tapah) Study of Scriptures (Swadhyaya) Introspection (Pratikraman) Repentance (Prayaschitta) When is paryushan celebrated? Every year this festival of Paryushan starts on Shra...

Pink or blue, boy or girl : Who is responsible?

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Though we are in 2020, there are so many families, infact even the going to be father or mother who desire to only have Baby Boy. I know it sounds unreal but it's a sad truth.  But what's are reason? Why does a family wants to have a boy but not a girl? Specifically talking about India, there are numerous unreasonable reasons behind this thinking. Family Heritage A boy will take forward the family heritage, but a girl will get married any follow someone else's heritage. Dowry When the boy gets married, the grooms family receives dowry I e many valuable gift and money, which needs to be given by the girls family i.e bride family. So it's beleived that a boy will get money and a daughter will take away all the money. Though dowry is illegal is India it's atill practiced but only the term is used is " gifts out of love and affection". Legacy A boy will take care of the family business and follow the family legacy and a girl is considered incompete...

I forgot being a wife while becoming a mother and how did I regained it

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Motherhood is one of the most embraced period of a women's life. A women's maximum attention is on her baby since the time it's as small as a mustard seed in her womb. This is motherhood, loving the life which is still unseen and unknown. As the days pass the attachment, the bond just grows stronger.  Once a baby is delivered, the actual motherhood starts and a mother's life just roams arround the little bundle of joy. Feeding, changing nappies, massages, bath times, making the baby sleep and so on, and with hardly any time left she makes sure to make food for the family, clean the house,  dusting, laundry and the list goes on. But in all this, a wife is lost . In the initial months after the baby, one surely doesn't realise this but it surely hits every marriage at some point  It did hit me also. My daughter was 14 months, till then everything was going good. My husband was a sweetheart to adjust to all my moods and helped me how much ever h...

Janmashtami : Why, When and How is it celebrated

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Lord Krishna or the Natkhat Kanha is one of the most loved hindu God amongst the kids. He is considered as one of the most notorious god and kids love to hear his stories. In fact you will find innumerable animated stories of lord Krishna's childhood. Janmashtami, is celebrated as the birth anniversary of Lord krishna, the eight incarnation of Lord Vishnu. Why is Janmashtami celebrated? Krishna Janmashtami ( also known simply as  Janmashtami  or  Gokulashtami) , is an annual Hindu festival that celebrates the birth of Krishna. Janmashtami, janam means birth and ashtami means 8th. So it's the birth of 8th incarnation of Lord Vishnu on the 8th day of the month Bhadon.Lord Krishna is considered as one of the most powerful human avatars of Lord Vishnu, and is worshipped as God and thus his day of birth is celebrated as a huge festival specially amongst the Vaishnavs. When is it celebrated ? The festival falls on the eighth day (Ashtami) of Kr...