Real Imperfect MOM

Motherhood is a beautiful journey but it's not an easy one. Some of us our lucky to have husband's and family's support to ease parenting. Earlier times, people lived in joint families and there were many helping hands in raising a child, thus a father's role in parenthood was never emphasized. But now as times have changed and most of us have moved from joint family to nuclear family, father's input as an active parent had become important. Where many mothers complaint about father's being inactive and less participative in parenthood, is it really their mistake ? If feel NO. I don't support inactive fatherhood but at the same time would not want to blame them completely for their behaviour. Some of the major reason father's are still inactive are : - Most of the fathers have seen their own father's rare participation in their upbringing and they feel it's normal for a mother to raise a child single handedly. - It's we as mother&

All eyebrows will be raised if I say, I want a baby boy and not a baby girl. For the fact, I always wanted a baby girl, I have a beautiful 16 months old daughter, and in the process of raising her, I badly want to raise a boy. But what actually made me feel this?? Being in 2020, I thought there would be no difference between raising a boy or a girl. And I never did that for my daughter. But to my surprise, people around me were much bothered about how I raise my DAUGHTER and not my child. Something which I usually heard being said to my daughter was : Girls don't play like this, they don't keep jumping around all time, girls don't roam around without a nappy, girls don't shout, etc. These were just some of the talks which my 16 month daugher was told, who didn't even knew the difference between a boy and a girl. And I realised that nothing was said intentionally but something that is being heard and said since generations . But I am sure I don't want

Do all of us like everyone whom we meet in our life ? I am sure we don't, but most of us pretend to like whoever we meet. We are taught from childhood days that we should talk nicely to everyone, everyone around is a good human being, we should not be rude to anyone, etc. I respect all those childhood values but that doesn't mean I should like everyone.  I was never a pretend kind of a person during my teens nor am I now even after being 30. Since the time I was mature enough to understand, I was clear about the set of people whom I liked and the other ones who didn't matter much to me. The biggest problem here was, even if I wanted to pretend a fake smile the opposite person could easily know about it. So pretending was never a option for me. The process was never that easy. I was judged as arrogant, rude, having attitude, thinking about myself as I am someone great, not friendly, etc. These were the adjective which have been mentioned to me by those people who

Your were an unexpected happiness which was coming our way, but very less did I know that I would develop more fears than the happiness you were going to give me. We had just returned from our Ladhak trip. My periods were delayed but I didnt give much importance to it. I was 10 days up, and just to make sure I am NOT PREGNANT, I took the test and then came the most unexpected result " I Was Pregnant'. My husband and I both couldn't believe and took the test 3 times to make sure the results was correct . But with this unknow and unexpected Pregnancy, I was gripped with a lot of fears. The biggest fear that I woke up every morning to was , 'Will I be able to carry the child for 9 months, or I might have a miscarriage ?' Somehow the fear of miscarriage dint let me enjoy my initial phase of Pregnancy. To add to my fear, I started spotting at the start of 3rd month and it lasted for 20 days. But with God's grace I was still Pregnant. Knowing that by

A mother is child's first teacher. Whatever a baby learns, good or bad is always linked to mother's teaching. Being a mother, I know that feeling of onus to teach your child and making sure that he or she doesn't display any unaccepted behaviour before outsiders.But being a mother, I also know for the fact that no mother inculcates any bad habit to her baby, every mother wants the best for her baby. Then why is this gap between what we want to teach and what a baby learns? Is mother not a good teacher or baby not a good learner ? Let's find out. There are different aspects which affects the entire teaching and learning process, due to which a child is not able to graps what a mother teaches. ( All the examples given are tried and tested examples of my 16 month daughter ) 1. Method of teaching Every child has a unique method of learning. Some like to just listen and learn, while some like to touch and feel things, some like to just observe and some would like

Paryushan Parva is one of the most important festivals for the whole Jain community living across the globe. Thus, it is also known as Parva Dhiraj.  We can easily understand the word  Paryushan  by breaking it into two parts: Pary means all kinds and ushan means to burn; Overall it means to burn all the karmas and attain enlightenment and get freed from the cycle of life and death.Paryushan parva is an 8 day Jain festival. Amongst these, day 5th and day 8th hold a special celebration. Why is Paryushan celebrated? Paryushan is basically a spiritual festival which is celebrated to bring spiritual awareness and awakening. Paryushan stands for some of the most important practices like: Nonviolence (Ahimsa) Engaging in self-discipline (Sanyam) Partial or complete fasting Penance (Tapah) Study of Scriptures (Swadhyaya) Introspection (Pratikraman) Repentance (Prayaschitta) When is paryushan celebrated? Every year this festival of Paryushan starts on Shravan Vad 12th o

Though we are in 2020, there are so many families, infact even the going to be father or mother who desire to only have Baby Boy. I know it sounds unreal but it's a sad truth.  But what's are reason? Why does a family wants to have a boy but not a girl? Specifically talking about India, there are numerous unreasonable reasons behind this thinking. Family Heritage A boy will take forward the family heritage, but a girl will get married any follow someone else's heritage. Dowry When the boy gets married, the grooms family receives dowry I e many valuable gift and money, which needs to be given by the girls family i.e bride family. So it's beleived that a boy will get money and a daughter will take away all the money. Though dowry is illegal is India it's atill practiced but only the term is used is " gifts out of love and affection". Legacy A boy will take care of the family business and follow the family legacy and a girl is considered incompete

Motherhood is one of the most embraced period of a women's life. A women's maximum attention is on her baby since the time it's as small as a mustard seed in her womb. This is motherhood, loving the life which is still unseen and unknown. As the days pass the attachment, the bond just grows stronger.  Once a baby is delivered, the actual motherhood starts and a mother's life just roams arround the little bundle of joy. Feeding, changing nappies, massages, bath times, making the baby sleep and so on, and with hardly any time left she makes sure to make food for the family, clean the house,  dusting, laundry and the list goes on. But in all this, a wife is lost . In the initial months after the baby, one surely doesn't realise this but it surely hits every marriage at some point  It did hit me also. My daughter was 14 months, till then everything was going good. My husband was a sweetheart to adjust to all my moods and helped me how much ever h

Lord Krishna or the Natkhat Kanha is one of the most loved hindu God amongst the kids. He is considered as one of the most notorious god and kids love to hear his stories. In fact you will find innumerable animated stories of lord Krishna's childhood. Janmashtami, is celebrated as the birth anniversary of Lord krishna, the eight incarnation of Lord Vishnu. Why is Janmashtami celebrated? Krishna Janmashtami ( also known simply as  Janmashtami  or  Gokulashtami) , is an annual Hindu festival that celebrates the birth of Krishna. Janmashtami, janam means birth and ashtami means 8th. So it's the birth of 8th incarnation of Lord Vishnu on the 8th day of the month Bhadon.Lord Krishna is considered as one of the most powerful human avatars of Lord Vishnu, and is worshipped as God and thus his day of birth is celebrated as a huge festival specially amongst the Vaishnavs. When is it celebrated ? The festival falls on the eighth day (Ashtami) of Krishna Paksha or

Every pregnant women wishes to exclusively breast feed her baby. Irrespective of delivering via normal delivery or C-Section, feeding baby from the day of delivery is possible. It's the mother who needs to be firm and should have well instructed the hospital staff to not give formula milk to the baby without prior permission. While most of the mothers want to exclusively breast feed the baby, very few really know what are the benefits for both mother and child. Benefits of breast feeding for the baby. Immunity Booster Breast milk is one of the best immunity Booster for the baby. It protects the baby from allergies, diabetes, other diseases. It has anti oxidants which help strengthen the resistance power of the baby. Intellect It is claimed by the doctors that babies who are exclusively breast fed intellectually outgrow those babies who are formula fed. Breast feeding has effect on their long term brain development. Healthy Weight gain Even formula fed babies

Wooden toys are one of the safest option for kids of any age. What better way of introducing shapes to your little one along with stacking, sorting and colors. Product : Wooden Shape Stacker and Sorter ( Available on Amazon.in) Age Group : 15 months + Review : - This is super light weight and has multiple colors. So you can teach shape, counting and colors all in one toy. - This helps to develop concentration and patience in kids. - It promotes creativity and can be used as building blocks as well. - Kids learn to stack in one to five stands, this increasing hand eye coordination immensely. There are many other stacking as well as shape sorter available in different brands. But I prefer this as it can be used in multiple ways.

Most of the babies are introduced to solids on completion of 6 months of age. Some babies respond to it positively and accept whatever is offered to them , while some babies take time to get used to the new change. Infact, most of the babies and toddlers go through this phase when they don't eat as per parents expectations. There could be multiple reasons for this depending upon the age of the baby or toddler. So here is a list of reasons along with possible solution. 1. Not ready for solids yet All babies are not necessarily ready for introduction to solids on completion of 6 months. Forcing them might not help. But at the same time, it's necessary to start some solids for babies post 6 months as breast milk might not be able to meet there required energy and nutrition requirment. Solution : Try introducing stage 1 solids in liquid consistency same as that of breast milk. This might help the baby develop a liking for new taste keeping the consistency constant. As

We all love our children, irrespective of how good or bad they are. But do we accept them in complete, or we try to mould their habits or traits to which we can't relate. For example if a child doesn't want to swim, how many of us would accept the child's decision and not force them to learn to swim. Not even 1% of us. Our love doesn't reduces for them, but our acceptance of them as a individual personality surely does reduces. This blog will focus mainly on : What is acceptance Stages of acceptance Importance of acceptance What is acceptance? Acceptance of a child means, accepting all the traits,habits,likes, dislikes in them, irrespective you think they are correct or wrong. Accepting them in complete, with their different personality is important. Stages of acceptance? Basically accepting anything which is not liked by us doesn't happen overnight. We go through a 5 stage process to accept anything in life. To understand the process let's continu

Art and Craft : Friendships Band Material Required : Foam Sheets Glue Scissors Velcro Process : -Cut the bands in the sizes as required.  -We have used smiley theme so cut the circles or any other shape as desired -Then cut heart shape to make eyes and crescent shape to make smile. -Stick velcor to the bands and then stick the circle, eyes and smile.  - Your personalised Friendships band is ready. The best part of these bands is they are easy to tie for any age group as the velcro just needs to be pressed.  

Friendships Day is one the most celebrated day amongst teenagers. During my school and college days even I used to put efforts to make personalised bands for my special friends. But never had I thought then that, why was this day celebrated and who initiated it.  But now as Aaradhya is 16 months old, and interested enough in listening to stories, I felt I should take a little effort and make sure atleast she has basic knowledge about the days she is celebrating.  So here is a small detail about Why, When and How is International Friendships Day Celebrated. Who initiated Friendships day? T Theidea of Friendships was first introduced by the founder of Hallmark cards, Joyce Hal, in 1920. The day was celebrated by exchanging greeting cards, but it was in 1958 that Dr. Ramon Artemio Bracho coined the term ‘Friendship Day’ and started a foundation called The World Friendship Crusade. When is Friendships Day Celebrated ?  In 2011, the General Assembly of the UN declare

One of the best thing to include in bed time routine is Bed Time Stories. So this is a set of story books that I ordered for my lil one to set bed time story routine on regular basis. Product : Little Kids Story Books ( Click on the picture to know more ) Age group : 6 months + Review - Little Kids Story Books is a set of 16 small bed time Stories. It's one of the best set for first time introducing stories to kids. It has huge picture with one liner description, so the kids retain their interest. - Inside the book cover page, there are drawings which can be colored. So you can use it as story book as well as coloring book. - It has a questionnaire at the end. It can be used for kids in the age group of 2-3 years to take a quick synopsis of the story. - The size of the book is hand carry and can be used easily during travelling. Note: This is just one of the Story book ideal for for beginners There are many such other books available. But consider the review points whil

Most of the kids are fussy eaters when it comes to vegetables. After a point even making them have soup becomes difficult. So here is a quick and easy recipe to make your kids eat vegetables happily. Preparation Time : 10 Minutes Cooking time : 30 minutes ( 20 minutes for the cooking in pressure cooker) Ingredients - Spilt Moong Dal - 1 cup - Rice (Regular/ Basmati) - 1 Cup - Carrot - Tomato - Onion - Capsicum - Peas - French Beans *All vegetables should make one cup in qty - Ghee - 1 table spoon - Cumin Seeds - 1/2 tea spoon - Ginger Garlic Paste - Turmeric - 1/2 tea spoon - Hing 1/4 tea spoon - Kashmiri Mirchi (Non spicy) - 1/4 tea spoon - Salt as per taste. Method - Finely chop all the vegetables. - Wash and drain rice and split moon dal. - Now heat a Kadai and add ghee to it. Once ghee is heated add cumin seeds. - Once the seeds turn brown add Ginger Garlic Paste and let it cook for 2-3 minutes. - Add all the chopped vegetables and give a good st